Telling a mentee to grow up

"When they came to the crowd, a man approached Jesus and knelt before him. “Lord, have mercy on my son,” he said. “He has seizures and is suffering greatly. He often falls into the fire or into the water. 16 I brought him to your disciples, but they could not heal him.”

“You unbelieving and perverse generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy here to me.” Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed at that moment.

Then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?”

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”


(Matthew 17:17-21)


When Jesus realized that his disciples could not cast out the demon, He got upset with them by asking: "How long does He have to stay with them?"

In other words, Jesus expected them to know what to do at that time.

In life, we will have mentees,students, followers that we will disciple. Those people will be friends, acquaintances, family members or total strangers. However, we cannot deny the fact that our mentorship role will have limits.

As mentors, we will not be able to do life for them. We will surely show them the way, but we will not be able to walk for them. There is a point in life where, as mentors, we need to instill in our followers the fact that they have to grow up and do things for themselves.

We can't be teachers and do life for our followers at the same time. This lesson is valid for parenting, family relationship, coaching, discipleship and mentorship.

In these perilous end times, everybody must grow up (that's not negotiable).

Many mentees fail to understand that their real growth is strongly influenced by their willingness to 'own up' on their walk instead of delegating the 'walking' to their mentors.


To all those who are still struggling to start doing the will of God for their lives, here are a few questions:


When will you start? What are you waiting for? If you don’t start today, then when will you start?